“A big part of growing up is learning to forgive. M. Scott Peck”
To shed the blame
and be free of its burden;
to accept and forgive,
is almost as hard
as it is
to acknowledge
and cherish the warmth
of forgiveness
when given by others.
Iceberg 2 by David Burdeny
Today Frank hosts dVerse and the topic is blame and forgiveness, and my answer to this is a short aphorism.
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February 26, 2019
Björn Rudbergs writings 
It is a very hard journey. Both are difficult.
I think you need to do the first before the other… but maybe I’m wrong..
What are we holding onto when we won’t let go and forgive?? You would think we would want the warmth of forgiveness… instead we often choose bitterness instead!
Maybe it is… but maybe accepting forgiveness is a bit like being in debt.
Yes, it definitely is…
Deep thoughts.
Thank you… my first ever aphorism
I’ll have to look up the procedure for that one. I wrote a rubaiyat in anapeptic (?) tetrametre at your suggestion. I’ll post it maybe tomorrow.
anapestic… da-da-dam … such fun.
I have always loved the Byron poem. It’s the rhythm of the great epics, How they brought the good news from Aix to Ghent is another good one and I think the one about the burial of Sir John Moore at Corunna
Not a drum was heard, not a funeral note
As his horse on the ramparts we curried.
I love that version 🙂
Well penned, Björn
As I commented to Frank, no matter how important it is in all of our relationships Björn, we are not innately forgiving and forgetting animals.
I like the link between the cold of that iceberg tip and the warmth of forgiveness, Björn. I prefer forgiveness – bitterness makes me ill.
One can be honest, and not forgive; accommodate and move on, yes, but not betray what makes sense for you, Forgiveness is like celibacy, easy for lip service but hard to implement.
This is incredibly powerful, Bjorn ❤️ I somewhat agree with Rob … we might forgive others for the pain they have intentionally or unintentionally caused but we don’t forget .. well atleast not right away .. 😊
I think your response is perfect!!
Accept, and learn to give.
I appreciate what you are saying. To me it is a little like asking someone if they want strawberry ice cream or chocolate ice cream. How about no thank you, I’ll skip them both. I am with Rob, humans are not innately forgiving and forgetting animals. It’s part of our wiring to learn and remember as part of survival.
You can’t force forgiveness either way.
I like that warmth from forgiveness sincerely given. We can learn from those who gives us such gifts.
Well penned. Forgiveness ain’t easy…either way!
Equally. True.
Sage words, my friend. Written tighly and well plotted. Thanks for posting!
I don’t believe pointing the finger of blame ever brought two people closer. It doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault. Let’s just fix it. your words echo my mantra. Expertly done Bjorn.
it is so very unkind to not accept forgiveness given, such a heart must have endured much pain
Ah, that is indeed true — to forgive and to be forgiven are both such burdens that cannot be lifted that easily. Well said, Bjorn!
Very true words. Forgiveness is hard to give when we haven’t accepted it for our self.
Every line rings true to me.
Hard to let go, hard to receive. Beautiful and true. (K)
Yes, hard to accept forgiveness and to give it. Life grows better when we can.
I think the problem may lie in the fact that most people feel forgiveness comes with an entourage of attendant feelings and behavior, some of which are harder to embrace than simple forgiveness.
To me, forgiving is not the same as accepting an act, it is letting go the bitterness it’s caused. Granted, it’s a formidable task at times!
Beautifully penned Bjorn.
Very nice. So true that it is hard to be forgiven.
So true! All of it!
Well put. Admitting guilt and receiving forgiveness are of a par.
Eloquent and insightful, Bjorn!