Grandmother gaps

I never knew my grandmother
in the way my mother had done
there was always a softer
benevolence towards me
than my mother had seen.

She kept the Bomboniere
filled with candy for kids,
and still I remember lifting
its lid as a peppermint
breeze filled me with glee.

My mother never received
such sweetness, but growing
older I feel, that most likely
she knew the position a
grandmother always will fill.

My grandmother’s mother
was probably strict with her
daughter, forcing the bourgeois
duties upon her, like the
porcelain painting I kept.

This is the bonbonniere my grandmother painted. and always kept filled with peppermint candy for her grandchildren.

Today Sarah hosts dVerse Poetics with a prompt on Grandmothers and it made me think about how often grandmothers seem kinder to grandchildren than they ever were to their own kids.

January 24, 2022

26 responses to “Grandmother gaps

  1. I think most grandmothers are softer towards their grandchildren than their children, Björn, especially when I was growing up. I have never known anyone with a bonboniere – our sweets were always in paper bags.

  2. That’s lovely that you have that bonbonniere.

    I know my grandfathers were different with us than with my parents, and my husband’s father definitely mellowed as a grandfather.

  3. Deliciously delivered, Bjorn. Thanks. My Gram was a fudge maker. Thank God my sister learned her recipe & I get Gram’s fudge every Christmas now, almost a century later.

  4. I have never heard of a bonboniere . Thank you so for widening me horizons. Grandparents get to indulge their grandchildren in ways parents must never do. Someone has to see that the young uns understand their bourgeois responsibilities

  5. This really resonates with me, Bjorn. Mothers have to be stricter with their kids than Grandmas, as they are trying to raise good humans, and they worry. Grandmas, I am happy to report, just get to enjoy the kids. Much more fun!

  6. How wonderful to remember her with such sweetness! And now I can add bonboniere to my vocabulary list! The perfect word for its perfect use. 🙂

  7. I’m glad your grandmother was kind to you. Imagining tiny hands lifting the lid of bonbonniere for the treats. Not sure if you were able to get your own sweets from it or not but you probably lifted that lid a million times in your mind.

  8. Weren’t our grandmothers wonderful!! Mine both were, I saw the one I wrote of a lot more than my maternal grandmother–even so she was an angel in my book as well. All grannies should have “Bomboniere
    filled with candy (and cookies) for kids”. Plus ice cream in the freezer.
    Nice write, Bjorn,
    ..

  9. ” about how often grandmothers seem kinder to grandchildren than they ever were to their own kids. ”

    I think this happens a lot. It’s just the way they REDEEM themselves: for being so strict with their own kids. hehe.
    Your poem is delightful. That “the bonbonniere my grandmother painted. and always kept filled with peppermint candy for her grandchildren” Wow!! Sentimental. Love knowing this. Blessing you. xoxo

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